On a car a Rearview Mirror is really important, in life and when you are trying to make a change it’s one of the most crippling causes of failure. Often times when presented with an opportunity or new program we quickly check our past accomplishments, “No, I’ve never achieved at that level before. In fact, I’ve failed time and time again!”
Not looking behind you can have its advantages, when it’s moving forward and attacking a goal or when you are pulling your first ever 26 foot camper like I was 4 years ago.
Brandy and I had camped for nearly a decade, we both loved it! It was an opportunity to unplug, reconnect with each other and in general just be in nature. The struggle came when the miracles we call Seth, Sam and Brooklynn were born. God bless my wife, she was determined it wasn’t going to stop us from camping so she would do everything in her power to make it happen.
Including breastfeeding an infant in a three man dome tent (the kind you can’t even stand up in).
This lasted for several years, until one fateful night of pouring rain, a stomach virus that had all three kids throwing up and a zipper breaking on the front door leaving us without a blanket and getting rained on in the North Georgia Mountains.
That’s it, we’re DONE.
A few months later we bought our first ever camper (26 feet of awesome-ness!). Only problem, I’d never really pulled anything before. Never-the-less something this big and complicated to hook-up, steer and back-up!
After only a few minutes on the road I realized something – I can’t use my rear-view mirror! I can’t look behind me at all. For miles and miles I would, out of habit, look in the mirror before trying to change lanes. It was really frustrating, to say the least.
Then something started to happen, I started trusting new tools; such as Brandy helping me back-up into spots and add on side mirrors but the kicker was when I decided… I’ve got to stop looking behind me and focus on whats in front of me.
This week, your “Mission, should you choose to accept it” is to stop thinking about your goals in terms of past failures. Start looking to the future and begin using new tools and beliefs to get you there. Here are a few suggestions to how you can STOP looking at why you didn’t achieve the goal last time, but what you CAN do to achieve the goal this time!
Once per day (either before bed or first thing in the morning) write down your goal and that you WILL reach it. For now, don’t give it a deadline but rather focus on the positive affirmation instead.
Share the goal with your coach, accountability partner, spouse or anyone you think will help hold you accountable.
Write down ONE thing you will do that is different than what you’ve been doing, that will help you reach the goal.
If you find yourself saying something like what I used to say a lot, “SEE, that’s just my luck” when the first obstacle comes your way repeat this mantra… I’m STRONG and I will work around this new obstacle. Don’t slouch, stand up tall pull your shoulders back and BELIEVE what you say… Even if you don’t really believe it, fake it until you make it.
This week, don’t look back, look ahead and go after your goals my friends. You are capable of so much, now lets make it happen!
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